At 52, menopause arrived at my doorstep uninvited. I knew the day would come eventually, but I still felt slightly unsettled when she arrived. As a couples therapist and a qualified nurse, I often help couples adjust to the changes in their relationship due to menopause. It is slightly different when it happens to you! “I’m the …
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We all crave intimacy, but it can be challenging if you need clarification on what it means. According to Esther Perel, a relationship expert who specialises in intimacy issues in relationships, intimacy means sharing your innermost thoughts, feelings, and desires with someone else. This means more than just sex—it also includes the ability to talk about …
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Introduction Many things can get in the way of a relationship ending well. But if you struggle to accept the reality of a breakup, it’s essential to consider why this is happening and how you can move forward. The following are some suggestions for managing your feelings: “Overcome Relationship Struggles with Communication, trust, and Commitment. …
Men are not often known for their emotional openness. As a result, many men are prone to hiding their emotions and feelings from others—even those closest to them. The reasons why they do this vary, but often it’s because they feel as though they will be judged or criticised if they show their true feelings. …
We all dream of eternal happiness and are constantly measuring our happiness by comparing our relationships to what our ideal relationship expectations are.― Albert Camus once said“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”So what can …
Arguments are bound to happen in any relationship. Even if you are a new couple, you will someday eventually have your first argument. Though arguing is a normal part of any relationship, how and where you argue as well as how you recover and reconnect, can make or break your relationship. When repairing your relationship …
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With the global financial crisis at our door, the time has come for us to focus on our relationships more than ever. Here are my Six ways to ensure your relationship will survive financial difficulties. Have you heard the saying that love goes out the door when money disappears? I often hear from clients when …
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In relationships, we feel emotionally reactive or triggered by something our partner does or says. Emotional triggers can develop from our insecurities or when someone hurt us in the past. It can be a problem when we react emotionally instead of staying calm and communicating exactly why we are feeling triggered. Here are the Top …
Ten triggers I see most as a Couple’s Therapist. Read More »
Here are the top 10 reasons why couples argue about money in a relationship. One of the most common complaints from couples argue about money. Constant arguing is also one of the leading causes of relationships breaking down. Money is integral to our lives; we can’t survive without it. It is our emotional response to …
“Working briefly on your marriage every day will do more for your health and longevity than working out at a health club”― John Gottman John Gottman is an American psychologist who has focused a considerable amount of his work on divorce prediction and marital stability. The purpose of his work was to turn his findings into practical …
