The Conflict Reset

£29.00

Practical tools for calmer conversations, healthier disagreement and more reliable repair.

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What you'll learn

  • Identify your repeating conflict cycle
  • Recognise the argument beneath the argument
  • Spot criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling
  • Understand what happens when your nervous system becomes flooded
  • Take a healthy pause without creating abandonment
  • Start difficult conversations more softly
  • Listen without preparing your defence
  • Recognise the softer emotions underneath anger
  • Understand what you may really be fighting for
  • Make room for difference without turning it into danger
  • Repair using the CALM method
  • Make apologies more accountable and meaningful
  • Reconnect after difficult conversations
  • Create a shared conflict agreement

Who this is for

  • Couples who repeatedly have the same argument
  • Partners who escalate quickly during disagreement
  • Couples caught in pursue-withdraw patterns
  • People who become defensive, critical or shut down
  • Couples who struggle to repair after conflict
  • Relationships where disagreements begin to feel like winning versus losing
  • Partners who want to disagree without damaging their connection
  • Couples wanting practical tools before or alongside deeper professional support

What's inside

  • Conflict Temperature Check
  • The Argument Beneath the Argument
  • Repeating Conflict Cycle mapping
  • Four Destructive Conflict Habits
  • Nervous-system flooding awareness
  • The Pause That Protects Connection
  • Soft-start communication tools
  • Listening exercises
  • Needs Beneath Anger
  • The CALM Repair Method
  • Repair attempts that actually help
  • Apology and accountability framework
  • 20-Minute Repair Conversation
  • After-the-argument reconnection
  • Shared Conflict Agreement
  • A complete 7-Day Conflict Reset
  • Before-and-after assessment

Conflict does not automatically mean a relationship is failing. Often, something important is trying to be heard, but the way it is being expressed has become painful, defensive or repetitive.

The Conflict Reset helps couples slow the argument down, understand what is happening beneath the surface and practise healthier ways of speaking, listening, pausing and repairing.

Instead of focusing only on what you argue about, this workbook helps you uncover deeper emotional themes such as closeness, recognition, trust, fairness, freedom, belonging and the need to feel heard.

What you will learn:
• Identify your repeating conflict cycle
• Recognise the argument beneath the argument
• Take a healthy pause without creating abandonment
• Repair using the CALM method

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